{FTW} STFU!

God, you know what I hate? People who feel like they always need to saying something. If your going to talk to somebody, have something to say. Don't talk just for the sake of saying something, or because your trying bond with me. Because if your try to bond with me over bullshit, its not going to work. In fact it will probablly make me want to avoid talking to you more than I have to and on top of that it just makes you sound really not interesting.

Personally i'd much rather be friends with someone who barely speaks but has interesting and honest things to talk about than somebody who feels like they need to speak because the silence make them feel uncomfortable.

Maybe the silence makes you feel lonely or awkward. This may stem from preexisting self esteem issues. maybe you were neglected in your younger years. Maybe you feel unappreciated and your searching for somebody to make you feel important. Regardless of the reason, you need to learn to stfu unless your gonna talk about something you really have an opinion on. So basically, learn when you need to stfu. There's only awkward pauses when you yourself make them awkward by feeling awkward.

This dialouge from Pulp Fiction sums it up best.

Mia: Don't you hate that?

Vincent: What?

Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?

Vincent: I don't know. That's a good question.

Mia: That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

Space Dragon